So a friend in class asked me today....would you rather spend the evening with someone you're interested in, who doesn't like you back, or with someone interested in you, but you don't like them back?
I liked this question, but mostly hated how there seem to be these uneven, one-sided relationship situations in our lives. I think I'm in one of those moods where I would vote for arranged marriage if I could. Or like if we could have agency in all things except spouse picking. I seem to stink at it.
This question is earily similiar to one Dan asked me once wheb we were dating. He asked me if I would rather be loved or love in a relationship. Obviously it's possible to have/do both, but his theory was that someone always loved the other more.
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would you rather's are always really tricky... I try to stick to the "I'd rather not either" answer.
In a SOC class that I took last semester, we talked about exchange theory and how people will do something only if they get something out of it... I think that this one-sided relationship falls into that category if you really think about it.
I didn't even think about social exchange theory! When you hang out with someone you like you're engaged and interested in them and what's going on. If you spend time with someone you're not interested in you spend your time trying not to make them think you like them back, I think I get more out of the first scenario. I might not be getting much from the indivdual I'm with but I have a better time.
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