Just a quick rant. I'm clearly not married yet and sorta wish I was.
I've been back and forth with online dating and have had really minimal success. I think maybe I should open up my dating profile to you all and get your two-cents. I don't give too much information, my pictures are realistic without being gross and double-chinned, and I take time to send around plenty of my own flirts to others trying to drum up business.
I went on a date last week with a local cross country coach. It was dreadful. After the first five minutes I thought about just getting up and leaving so as not to waste our time, but panicked, thinking I should stick it out. Fear that I've become too picky in my old age, so I forced myself to stick it out and see if I could turn it around.
He was vegetarian and made a big deal about me ordering meat in my Mexican meal.
His exact words..."well you can order whatever you want, but just know that being around meat makes me really grossed out and uncomfortable."
That's weird right? I should have just stood up and walked away. I sort of feel like staying on at the table sent the wrong message. He'll think he has social skills.
I guess I shouldn't really be on dates, "sending messages" and all that.
Suffice it to say...I'm learning something about this time in life we call "mid-singles"...it's really hard to meet new people. As in, I hardly EVER meet new people who fall into the category of dating interest.
According to my ward statistics, there are 35 single individuals in my ward over the age of 31. I looked through the roll and the majority are widowers in their 80's. I've literally never seen a single man, around my age at my ward. If I did, you better believe I would be putting my best foot forward.
I guess this truly is a rant..I have no solutions and I'm at a point that feels pretty depressing. I'll continue to online date, and try to seize any moments that come my way but it really feels pretty pointless.
1 comment:
don't feel like you need to change your standards to get a guy. there are tons of "fish in the sea" out there sure, but not all of them are the ones you want. don't settle of unamazing, mediocre, creepy, and all that. and if some dude is a whacko to you on a date, you don't have time for that crap, you're a busy lady with a life and things going on. don't stick around to be polite.
i just read this on a friends blog, and i feel like it relates to your situation: "So many bad dates stories could have been avoided if I'd only been rude. You should never ever do something you don't want to do just because you're afraid someone is going to think you're rude. You probably should be rude! If that senator's daughter had been rude to that serial killer in Hannibal, things would've been way better for her!"
just be rude sometimes frejya. you can do it!
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